Blythe Roberson's sharp observational humor is met by her open-hearted willingness to revel in the ugliest warts and shimmering highs of choosing to live our lives amongst other humans. Love looks so much better.From New Yorker and Onion writer and comedian Blythe Roberson, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a comedy philosophy book aimed at interrogating what it means to date men within the trappings of modern society. And hate doesn’t look good on you, darling. You cannot let the man that broke you have so much control over your emotional energy because to hate takes just as much of your heart as to love. You cannot let your brokenness weigh you down with negative feelings. Maybe that scenario, that breakup, that relationship, those decisions. One day you have to let go, forgive, and open to love again. What you are feeling right now-your anger, resentment, bitterness, frustration, pain-that is all real. But can we truly hate? Can we truly harbor these feelings for men we have loved? Men we relied on and trusted and needed for a period in our lives? Should we? Loving and hating-they are almost one in the same-so much emotion, so much fervor and intensity. To hate is to still have just as much feeling towards that person.

To hate someone is to have loved with enough feeling and passion that we are capable of such extreme emotion on the opposite end. But when we really look deeply at ourselves, decipher the tangled mess of our emotions, we see that love and hate are more closely tied than we think. We have all held resentment towards a member of the opposite sex. We’ve had our share of love and loss, our experiences with falling in, falling out. You hate just as strongly as you once loved. You hate so deeply, so passionately, so recklessly. You hate with every atom in your body, every muscle, every fiber in your brain, every vein in your heart. You have been hurt, so deeply it feels that it’s beyond repair, and so you hate. Or maybe one single man that has altered the way you view the entire sex. They can grow us, and with us, into something truly magical.Īnd this is why you hate men. They can see some inner, complex part of us and believe in it when we cannot see it in ourselves. They can build us when we are broken they can love us when we are unlovable. But they can also be beautiful and strong and intoxicating and challenging and tender. Men can be terrible, terrifying, painful, heart-breaking creatures. But to truly hate means that you have truly loved, and is hate really any less emotional, less heart-gripping, and less passionate than love? Hate implies hostility and jaw-clenching, fist-balling frustration.

A word that bends beyond plain dislike to every single cell in your being despising something, every bone in your body being bitter, and every line of your nose wrinkling in disgust.

How to date men when i hate men